Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved - Helen Keller
Life is a continuous set of experiences. Some are positive and others are negative. However, the pros and cons can become equally important depending on how the individual evaluates self as opposed to blaming others. Becoming angry and blaming others for past decisions, may result in an emotional mess. However, careful self-evaluation will save one from spending what seemed like a lifetime blaming others for the aftermath of poor judgment.
Anyone who has ever been in a complex situation knows that the healing process takes time. The ability to move forward successfully requires evaluating the situation BEFORE taking action