Acceptance of what has happened in life, is the first step to overcoming the consequences of misfortunes – James Williams.
Lessons can be learned from all experiences - good and bad. However, blaming and having negative feelings toward others that may or may not have caused your pain, may not only hold you back from reaching the destiny that God desires for you, the risk is also likely to cause negative life results on self and/or others.
When an individual takes responsibility for his/her actions, it may be a hard pill to swallow, but it is true anyway.